25 Questions: Before You Get Married
So you’re getting married (or thinking about getting married). Here are some questions to bring the focus to your relationship and upcoming marriage. I encourage you to answer these questions when you are alone and have ample time. Write down your answers and schedule a time to discuss the questions and answers with your partner. These questions will foster a meaningful conversation about marriage and give you an opportunity to connect with your partner on a deeper level.
What does marriage mean to you?
What is the definition of marriage?
What is the meaning of marriage?
What is the purpose of marriage?
Why is marriage still needed today? Or is it not?
What does marriage accomplish?
How is marriage different from a romantic relationship? Or is it not?
Is there anything that comes out of marriage that doesn't come out of long term relationships?
Why are you getting married?
Why have you chosen to marry this person?
Why is is important that you marry this person?
Do you believe in soulmates?
Do you believe that this is the only person for you to be with in the world? Or do you believe that you are compatible with many people in the world?
What is the purpose of your marriage?
What will come from your marriage?
Do you think marriage will be hard? If so, what is hard about marriage?
What, if anything, would cause you to consider divorce?
What, if anything, would cause you to want divorce?
What, if anything, would cause you to file for divorce?
What, if anything, could be done instead of divorce?Could you ask for that thing? Would you be willing to do that thing?
What scares you about marriage?
What areas of your marriage will you need support?
Will you be able to ask your partner for what you need? If not, what is needed to get to that place?
What keeps you and your partner connected?
Is there anything you can think of that would help grow this connection?